Swamproot: Sounds like you and your spouse are ahead of most.
I think one of the things KP is referring to by "a social agenda" is the elevation of "self-esteem" over tangible measurements of learning. I've noticed that type of mushy sentiment is pervasive even in the Bible belt.
nicholasville conservative may have a point with this. Take it from the spouse of a teacher woman, some kids are possibly advanced against what should be in their better interest and getting held back. Their are often political pressures associated with these choices that are not in the best interest of the children. Some of this is not due to some socialist conspiracy, but actually accountability measures that might not properly reflect the needs of the local constituency.
What I mean by this is that if schools are pressured not to have failing students who do not repeat grades, then in some demographics or locals schools might be penalized for having a more disenfranchised population and as a result "bend the rules", yet . Yet I agree with the so called conservative belief that there should be greater accountability.